Rabbi Aharon Wilschanski
I always emphasize the importance of a true partnership between parents and the school. Open communication leads to better outcomes. The more informed parents are about their child’s experience, the more they can support success.
I recommend that parents check in with teachers or the school administration at least once a month—or at a minimum, every two months. Some schools send out regular updates, but nothing replaces a one-on-one conversation for getting a clear sense of how your child is doing. Find out the school’s or teacher’s preferred method—whether phone, email, or in-person—and use that.
Both parents should take a proactive role in communicating with the school; do not wait for the school to reach out. Reaching out early and regularly helps to catch small issues before they become bigger ones. While principals are involved, it’s often the teacher who has the most direct day-to-day interaction with the child, so it is usually best to start with them.
The goal is to strike a healthy balance—staying involved while giving your child the space to grow and develop independence. Regular, supportive communication with both your child and the school helps ensure a smoother transition and continued growth.
Communication should be proactive, not just reactive. Do not wait until there is a problem to make contact. Even when things are going well, regular check-ins help strengthen the relationship with the school and keep you informed.
Positive feedback is just as important as voicing concerns. When parents share appreciation for the work teachers and staff are doing, it fosters goodwill and supports the child’s development.
Incidentally, the Rebbe once wrote in a letter about how important it is for educators to keep a warm, close relationship with the parents of their students, because this partnership greatly strengthens their positive influence on the children. We can do our part by fostering and supporting this connection.
Ultimately, the partnership between home and school is essential for your child’s growth and well-being. By staying engaged, communicating openly, and working together, you give your child the best possible foundation to thrive.